What Is CNM? Understanding Consensual Non-Monogamy

Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), also referred to as Ethical Non-Monogamy, is an umbrella term for relationship structures that allow for multiple romantic, sexual, or emotional partnerships with the knowledge and consent of all involved. CNM relationships take many forms, including polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, and swinging. At Redefined Intimacy Therapy, we provide a safe, nonjudgmental space to explore what CNM means for you and how to cultivate healthy, fulfilling connections.

What to Expect for CNM+ Therapy

At Redefined Intimacy Therapy, we provide a nonjudgmental, affirming space for individuals, couples, and polycules navigating consensual non-monogamy (CNM). Our goal is to help you explore your relationship structure, address challenges, and build healthy communication and connection within your dynamic.

First Session: Your therapist will take time to learn about you, your background, and what brought you to therapy. Together, you’ll set goals that align with your needs.

  • Clarify your relationship structure and how it works for you.
  • Discuss your goals, concerns, and challenges within your CNM dynamic.
  • Identify areas of growth and explore tools for communication, boundaries, and emotional well-being.

Ongoing Sessions: Therapy sessions are guided by what feels most helpful to you—whether that’s working through challenges, developing coping strategies, or exploring deeper emotions.

How We Can Support

At Redefined Intimacy Therapy, we offer tailored support for CNM individuals and partnerships, including:

  • Individual Therapy – Explore your relationship needs, personal growth, and emotional processing in a safe space.
  • Partners & Polycule Therapy – Strengthen communication, navigate agreements, and ensure all voices are heard.
  • Sex Therapy for CNM Relationships – Address intimacy challenges, explore desire dynamics, and enhance connection in multi-partner relationships.
  • Relationship Coaching – Develop practical tools for managing multiple relationships in a way that feels fulfilling and aligned with your values

Common Reasons CNM+ Relationships Seek Therapy

Every relationship—monogamous or non-monogamous—faces challenges. Therapy offers a space to navigate complexities and strengthen connections.
Jealousy & Emotional Processing
Communication & Boundaries
Navigating Relationship Transitions
Family & Social Stigma
Sexual Intimacy & Desire Discrepancies
No matter where you are in your CNM journey, therapy provides a supportive space to explore, grow, and create relationships that work for you

Find a Therapist that works for you

Melinda Porter, LPC-S, AASECT CST-S –
A is a certified Consensual Non-Monogamy therapist, offering expert guidance for each polycule or system with respect for their individual journey.  
Kelsey Madenwald, LPC-A – takes a narrative therapy approach, helping clients explore their relationship stories in a way that fosters clarity and empowerment.  
Taryn Colgrove, LPC-A – Focuses on connectivity and understanding of needs, ensuring each partner feels heard and supported.

Ready to Take the First Step?

Reaching out can feel intimidating, but it’s the first step toward a healthier, more fulfilling life. We’re here to support you every step of the way
Do I have to bring my partner(s) to therapy?
You can come alone, with a partner, or with multiple partners—it’s up to you! Therapy is tailored to your needs and comfort level.
Do all therapists at Redefined Intimacy Therapy specialize in CNM?
Yes! Our therapists are experienced in working with CNM clients:  
•   Melinda Porter is a certified Consensual Non-Monogamy therapist, specializing in polycule dynamics and ethical relationship structures.  
•   Kelsey Madenwald provides a narrative therapy approach, helping clients redefine and process their relationship experiences.  
•   Taryn Colgrove focuses on connection, communication, and understanding needs within non-monogamous relationships.
Do you offer therapy for entire polycules?
Yes! We work with individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships to support all members in feeling heard, valued, and respected. Please check with the individual therapists to see if they do.
My partner and I are new to CNM. Can therapy help us transition?
Absolutely! Whether you’re exploring CNM for the first time or adjusting to a new relationship dynamic, therapy can help you establish clear agreements, communication strategies, and emotional tools to ensure a smooth and ethical transition.
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